By Mark E. Smith
When you have a disability like me, you get used to some referring to you as “brave.” Yet, there’s nothing intrinsically brave about disability, in itself. You have it, life goes on, no place for bravery.
However, the human experience requires tremendous – sometimes, stomach-churning – bravery if we are living authentically to our best. My daughter, at this writing, has three weeks to decide if she’s attending Pratt in New York City to major in photography, or George Mason in Washington D.C. to major in psychology. Those are not only two completely different college experiences, but totally different life paths. Imagine the bravery it takes for an 18-year-old to make such a decision.
Bravery, after all, is an inner-feeling spoken – there’s nothing scarier than that. For example, while my daughter deliberates colleges, there’s little on the line. However, once she discloses her choice, she’s committed to it – it will take bravery for her to utter the words, “Dad, I’ve chosen….”
But, let’s go deeper, let’s think about the bravest moments in our lives, feelings spoken. What do they sound like?
I’m falling in love with you.
I love you, but I’m not in love with you.
I just had to come over here and introduce myself.
I was wrong.
I wish I was who you need me to be, but I’m not.
I need help.
I want a divorce.
Will you marry me?
I’m doing it!
The list goes on, and the words are different for each of us at vital turning points in our lives. Yet, the definition is a universal truth: bravery is a feeling spoken.
Here’s the real question, though: if bravery is a feeling spoken, what’s its impact on our lives?
Authenticity to ourselves. If we want to truly be ourselves, we must… well… be ourselves. We must be honest with our feelings, honest enough to vocalize them even when so much is at stake, when our deepest, sometimes scariest feeling are vocalized – and that takes the ultimate bravery.
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Hi Mark and Emily, I will look forward to hearing your decision, Emily!!! Barbara